Is Your Marriage In Trouble? Is Your Wife Saying, “It’s Not You, It’s Me”?

September 18th, 2009 Comments off

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Frequently, husbands come to me AFTER their wife doesn’t want to talk to them, rejects any form of touch or intimacy, and indicates that she feels a need to go “sort out her thoughts and find herself” in some place where her husband is NOT.

Typically, these husbands come to me in a state of “shock” because although they knew their marriage wasn’t all that great, they thought it was ok enough to continue on.

But, not for their wife – for the wife, the marriage is no longer suitable enough to continue. The wife is no longer willing to continue on in the unhappy state and situation that she’s in.

Usually, these husbands tell me that everything was fine in their marriage up until a few days, maybe a few weeks, sometimes a few months ago.

The thing is, men fail to understand how women generally handle problems and unhappiness differently than they do.

There are always exceptions, but most men will “externalize” a problem that’s making them unhappy – they’ll generally get it out in the open. And, by getting it out in the open, the problem usually somehow gets mitigated down to an acceptable level such that it’s no longer considered a problem – it becomes “No big deal”.

Conversely, most women will “internalize” a problem that’s making them unhappy – they’ll simply “stew and simmer” on the problem internally until it completely eats them up from the inside out. And, by the time the “problem” reaches the “outside world”, it is a “HUGE problem” – sometimes it’s so huge that it has become a “Deal breaker!”

And of course, as these “shocked” husbands get the “news” from their wife, they start asking her a myriad of questions like:

* What’s wrong?
* What did I do?
* Did I do something to hurt you?
* What is it that you want?
* What do you want from me?
* What about us?
* Does our relationship and family mean nothing to you?
* What about our future?
* Etc.

And, as the husband peppers his wife with this barrage of questions, she finally responds with something that goes like this:

“I don’t know…it’s not you…it’s me…I don’t know what I want any more…I just need to get away so I can think!”

And, with that one response, the wife takes all the wind out of her husband’s sails. The husband doesn’t have a leg to stand on. There’s nothing he can do.

At least, that’s what it seems like to him.

Actually, there’s a lot he can do…

First, he can realize that HE IS a big part of the problem. He can realize that his wife is reacting and responding to who and what he is…and it happens to be an unfavorable reaction and response. That’s good news because it means there IS something HE CAN do…he can learn how to create a different reaction and response in his wife towards him.

Second, he can realize that his wife is NOT a “logical” person like he is. That means she cannot logically explain what’s wrong or what she wants.

All she knows is that she doesn’t “FEEL” happy…and she wants to move AWAY from the “thing” that’s she FEELS is making her unhappy…her husband!

Third, he can realize that his wife is having this response towards him because she has unmet needs – and he can quickly get to work learning what her needs are and just as quickly get to work meeting those needs.

Fourth, he can realize that his wife is having this response towards him because HE has NOT behaved and operated in such a way that his wife finds him attractive and appealing – and he can quickly get to work learning how it is that he needs to behave and operate such that his wife begins to “FEEL” differently towards him.

Let me give you an example of that last item…

Just the fact that the husband asked his wife all of the questions I listed out above, TELLS the wife…it makes it clear to her…that her husband DOES NOT know how to lead him and her to the happy, loving, and intimate “place” that she wants to be in. In her mind, she KNOWS that she wants a MAN who CAN take her to the “FEELINGS” that she wants…and if her husband is asking her how to take her to that place, then that means he isn’t the MAN who can take her there. By asking these questions, a husband “operates” in a way that is unattractive and unappealing to his wife.

If you can relate to any of this, that means it’s time for you to “get with it”!

You’ve got a short opportunity to learn what you need to learn. Your wife’s clock is “ticking” and she’s not interested in living “without” the feelings she wants much longer…

Copyright 2009, Article by Calle Zorro. Men who want to improve their marriage relationship and their sexual relationship with their wife go here: Married And Happy

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Thoughts of Wife’s Previous Lovers Bothering You?

September 18th, 2009 Comments off

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There are men who sometimes think about their wife being with previous lovers and it generates strong, unpleasant, unhappy feelings within them. For some men, it’s so strong that it “hurts” or even makes them “sick”.

The word we use for these feelings is “jealous”.

However, here’s what a man needs to know…he must first “do” something in order to “feel” jealous. Specifically, HE MUST USE HIS MIND AGAINST HIMSELF! He must use his mind in a non-useful way.

In other words, he must use his mind to imagine scenarios where in comparison to himself, those previous lovers:

1. Were better lovers
2. Had a larger penis
3. Generated greater pleasure in his wife

Or, he must use his mind to imagine “sickening”, “revolting” scenarios that have to do with other men’s:

1. “Dirty” hands on his wife
2. Semen on or in his wife’s body
3. “Slobbering” lips on his wife

There are other non-useful scenarios a man can imagine about his wife in relation to her previous lovers but the result is the same: the man FEELS unhappy and he REPELS his wife.

Knowing that what’s important to a woman is how the man in her life makes her feel about herself and him, there’s no way a man dwelling on these non-useful scenarios can make his wife feel good about herself or him.

And so, she will eventually leave. That’s why she left all those previous lovers too.

A woman wants a man who has it together in his own head so that he can take both of them to happiness now and in the future.

What she doesn’t want is some guy who’s stuck in the past and dwelling upon the other men that she’s been with. What she doesn’t want is some guy who is a “project” that she has to try to “hold together” so he doesn’t “fall apart”. What she doesn’t want is a guy who’s constantly drowning in self-pity that she constantly has to “rescue”.

She wants a man with love in his heart – not jealousy – because she wants to be loved. She wants a man who desires her – not who’s thinking about her and men she’s been with before – because she wants a lover. She wants a strong, secure man – not some mental and emotional weakling – because she needs a man whose strength can counter-balance her weakness.

A woman knows for sure that a man who is jealous-turned can never be a source of love and happiness for her.

If you tend to be one of those who feels jealousy over your wife’s previous lovers, here’s a viewpoint for you to consider…

All those previous lovers made her what she is now…a woman who can REALLY appreciate a good MAN. That’s why she’s with YOU. She had HIGH HOPES that you were going to be that man!

Are you going to disappoint her? Are you going to let her down and “show” her that she hasn’t found the “man” yet and that she needs to continue looking?


Will you become the ATTRACTIVE MAN who is a source of love and strength for her so the two of you can enjoy a happy life?

Really, how long do you expect you can continue to be the weakling who’s too weak to even control his mind and direct it to be positive and useful before you lose your wife?

Copyright 2009, Article by Calle Zorro. Men who want to improve their marriage relationship and their sexual relationship with their wife go here: Married And Happy

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A Happier, More Sexual Marriage; A Secret For Men

August 3rd, 2009 Comments off

How To Create A More Sexual Marriage Relationship

Hey guys, are you interested in a little secret that can really help your marriage be a happier, more sexual union?

I thought you might be…but first, I need to “prepare” you to receive this secret…

Men like things to be DIRECT. Men like it when there is a one-to-one correlation to what they want. If they want ‘X’, then they want to be able to DIRECTLY push the ‘X’ button and immediately have an ‘X’ pop out.

This is why men the world over…when it comes time for love-making…well, there isn’t actually much love-making…because the guy is busy PUNCHING and GRINDING the ‘X’ button…or in this case, his wife’s clitoris/vagina…trying to DIRECTLY start her sexual motor so that the “sexual pleasure” he wants can occur.

I’m still preparing you to receive the secret…

Mostly, women are NOT direct like men are. In general, women do NOT want to push the ‘X’ button and have an ‘X’ pop out. Instead, they want to push the ‘X’ button which will then open the door so that they can push the ‘Y’ button which then paves the way so they can push the ‘Z’ button…which then loops them around so they can start on the ‘A’ button…and EVENTUALLY get back to the original ‘X’ button and this time FINALLY, have an ‘X’ pop out.

Going back to the love-making scenario…guys are driving STRAIGHT for the orgasm…their woman wishes just for ONCE that they could take the “scenic tour”…but the guy’s driving…and he usually gets straight to what he wants…and his woman is left unsatisfied…dreaming…wishing…for a man who was a real lover…

Which raises the question, “What kind of lover are you?”

Ok, I think you’re finally ready to receive the secret…

The reason we went through this whole direct and indirect thing is because this secret is INDIRECT…but if applied, it WILL lead to a happier, more sexual marriage…

Here it is…

LET YOUR WOMAN DO THINGS HER WAY AND TRAIN YOUR WOMAN TO LET YOU DO THINGS YOUR WAY. And, where there’s overlap, work out and negotiate a mutually acceptable compromise.

Now, at first, that might seem rather obvious and not all that much of a secret so let’s explore the idea…

If he doesn’t watch out, a Type-A man (driving, competitive, fast-paced, active, impatient, serious) who is married to a Type-B (laid-back, relaxed, slow-paced, easy-going, patient, non-competitive, fun-oriented) woman will be constantly driving his woman to do what he wants RIGHT NOW. He’ll constantly be trying to place her in competitive situations. Because of how he is, he’ll be constantly trying to “make” her be like him, do things like him, and do things the way he would do them. And of course, because of how she is, the woman is trying to get the man to do things HER way.

Similarly, if a extroverted woman is married to an introverted man, she’ll be constantly trying to get her husband to be more outgoing…she’ll be pushing him to relax and open up and have fun in the midst of a big crowd…to socialize like she does…and the whole time, he’s getting more nervous, upset, and frustrated by the second…which is why he always puts up the blocks and resistances to going out and intermingling in the first place.

There are other contrasts I could make but you get the point…and you can plainly see that the result is constant conflict…the result is a not very happy and definitely not very sexual marriage.

But, when a man and woman DECIDE to LET their companion be themselves and do things in their own way and respect and appreciate their companion for who and what they are THEN a person INDIRECTLY paves the way for a far happier, way more sexual marriage relationship.

Do you now see how this really is an important secret to a happier, more sexual marriage relationship? I’ll repeat it one more time…

“Let your woman do things her way and train your woman to let you do things your way. And, where there’s overlap, work out and negotiate a mutually acceptable compromise.”

The issue for most men is NOT that their woman is non-sexual (although that’s what they usually think). The real issue is that men need to learn how to do things like a lover and a wife-seducer. That’s why men who want to improve their sexual relationship with their woman go here: while men who are doing everything they know to do and still there is not enough sex in their relationship go here:

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How To Be A Lover Who Really Inspires And Satisfies A Woman

July 23rd, 2009 Comments off

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Have you ever wished that you could be the kind of lover who really inspires and satisfies your woman?

Great news…husbands are able to become a better lover and when you become aware of how a woman naturally makes love then you too will become a better lover who inspires and satisfies your wife.

Let me help you increase your awareness…

A man’s approach to making love is very linear. It’s very sequential. It’s very direct. It’s a straight line from start to finish that looks something like this:

1. At the moment of opportunity…
2. Express interest in sex…
3. Engage in just enough foreplay for the woman to lubricate…
4. Intercourse…
5. Orgasm…
6. Clean up…
7. Go to sleep or head off to do some work.

Left to his own devices, this is pretty much how a man would do it starting with about his second or third sexual encounter and continuing until his last sexual encounter.

This is precisely why so many women are uninspired by their man and dissatisfied with his performance as a lover.

Now, let’s look at a woman’s approach to making love. A woman’s approach is very NON-linear. It’s NON-sequential. It’s iterative. It’s a blend of direct and indirect. It’s a looping process that repeatedly brushes through many different components such as:

A) Sexuality
B) Loving connection
C) Conversation
D) Shared activity
E) Physical touch
F) Emotional touch
G) Foreplay
H) etc.

And, somewhere in this looping process all of the same things happen that happens in a man’s linear model.

The difference from a woman’s point of view is that the contrasting stimulation spread out over time and the tease of moving away and then coming closer and the difference between the physical and the emotional and silence complimenting the conversation all merge together to create an inspiring, fulfilling, satisfying form of intimacy that REALLY WORKS for a woman.

And so, the man who wishes to be a better lover need only broaden his perspective of making love and embrace more of an iterative, looping approach that so inspires and satisfies a woman.

Ok, consider this…now that I’ve pointed this out to you, you recognize that this is true. You can look back at examples in your personal history with your woman and recognize the pattern I’ve described in your woman’s behavior, can you not? And amazingly, it didn’t ever “click” until you just now read this, right?

And I’m wondering just how many other “secrets” like this one that you haven’t recognized or become aware of yet – and I’m sharing them with men from all over the world. I’m also wondering, do you recognize opportunities for getting more of what you want when they confront you…like right now?

Copyright 2009, Article by Calle Zorro

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More and Better Sex – 8 Tips for Men

July 17th, 2009 Comments off

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1. The more emotional pain a woman carries, the less she wants to be touched in her private areas. And, unless a woman has a man who completes her, she IS carrying emotional pain – it’s just a matter of what degree. Most women do NOT have such a man. That means you have a huge opportunity…

2. Take the judgment out of sex. Forget about questions like, “Did I do it right?” or “Was that good for you?” or “How do I feel / look?” Instead, make it a time of connecting, exploring, and experimenting. Make it a time of conveying feeling. Make it a time of expressing love through touch and skin contact. Make it a time of playfulness. Have a sense of humor. Let silliness, awkwardness or mistakes be ok and something to be laughed about.

3. Come up with words that work for you and your woman that you can use to build excitement when making love. Come up with a way that you can “talk dirty” and it be exciting for your woman. Vagina and Penis are a little on the clinical side for most women. On the other hand, hardcore street language is too crass and demeaning for most women. There’s something in between that does work though.

4. Be courageous enough to communicate directly with your lady. For example, using the preceding point, ask your lady what she would like for you to call her vagina during foreplay and when you’re making love with her. You can start with soft terms like “flower spot” or “honey pot”. You can give her off-beat terms such as “juice box”, “yum-yum”, or “happy valley”. You can give her the standard terms like “muff”, “pussy”, or “slit”. And just for completeness sake, be sure you give her the option of selecting some of the hardcore terms that you would never think she’d like. Some women will surprise you. You’ve got to find out because you never know what words your lady has a positive association with. And, while you going through this process, you should also find out which words she has a negative association with so that you can avoid those words.

5. Specifically say and do things to make your wife feel special and loved. You may know that you love her but unless you explicitly convey it to her, she doesn’t know. Further, just because you’re going on a vacation next month doesn’t mean you’ve expressed love to her. Just because you’ve spent money on her or gave her money for something she wants doesn’t mean you’ve communicated to her your love and affection. The physical nature of money and things is a long, long ways from the emotional nature of connection and communication. Don’t ever forget that.

6. Related to the previous, providing for basic needs is NOT the same thing as satisfying and fulfilling. If you are a normal guy, your parents provided for your basic needs of food, clothing, and shelter. But, you DID NOT want to stay with them for the rest of your life, did you? No! You wanted something more. You wanted a woman…someone that could satisfy and fulfill you. It’s the same for your lady…she wanted a man who could and WOULD satisfy and fulfill her.

7. Do something really sexy…stop trying to impress your woman in whatever ways you’re trying to impress her and instead, be impressed with her. Be impressed with who she is. Be impressed with all that she offers. Be impressed with all that she does. Be impressed with how she loves you and excites you. Be impressed with her goals, dreams, and aspirations. Be impressed with the endless zenith of love and joy that’s within her. Be impressed with her for a change and she’ll be impressed with what a sexy man you’ve become.

8. Help your wife boost her self-esteem and her willingness to get sexual by providing her with the way and means of dolling herself up at whatever level works for her. Even if it’s more practical for her to wear “boring but functional” clothing, she can still rev things up within her own mind by wearing something soft, lacy, and pretty underneath. It doesn’t matter where it’s at or even if it’s completely in her head – as long as SOMETHING is giving her a notion of “pretty” then she’ll FEEL prettier – and she’ll become more interested in connecting with her man.

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10 Sex And Marriage Truisms That Affect YOU

July 17th, 2009 Comments off

Men, have you thought about the following truisms and how they impact you lately?

1. The more sex you have with your wife, the less likely she is to cheat on you.

2. The more sex you have with your wife, the less likely she is to be pursued by other men.

3. You ambition and drive for resources is far more important to your wife than your looks.

4. Keeping your relationship happy and sexual is how you keep it going – it’s how you retain your lady.

5. Spying on your wife, snooping through her private places, exhibiting jealous behavior around her and/or creating a big fuss when others get too close to her is a way to try to keep your wife loyal to you but it doesn’t work very well.

6. Children desperately need you and your wife to model a happy, sexual marriage union to them so that they can go repeat the process – and the world thereby becomes a happier, more enjoyable place.

7. Loving and being loved is what makes the world go around. Are you helping the world go around?

8. The most dangerous and destructive thing you can do is let your wife get bored.

9. There are plenty of simple ways to poison and destroy all that you hold dear. Ones that have been proven include: criticizing, dwelling on hurts, trying to change others, ignoring others, and behaving selfishly. If you’d rather keep your family, then try encouraging, accepting, noticing, and giving selflessly.

10. The better you keep yourself looking, the more your wife will feel a need to keep herself looking good.

11. It’s good to want and work for better things so that you and your family can enjoy a finer life. Just remember to appreciate and enjoy all that you already have. That way, you achieve success and have happiness. That way, your wife and children can appreciate what you’re doing instead of despising you for it.

12. At one time, your wife was a special person to you. How much better might things become for you if you once again elevated her to hat position of being “special”?

13. God wants you, your wife, and your children to enjoy the abundance and fullness of life. Don’t miss out because of lack and emptiness of love.

14. You can’t build up your marriage by tearing down your wife.

15. It’s a surprising irony…there can be people all around you and you can still be lonely. Never forget though, the greatest antidote to loneliness is lovingness.

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More Sex And A Happy Marriage. Is That Too Much To Ask For?

July 17th, 2009 Comments off

How To Create A More Sexual Marriage Relationship

Too many men find themselves in an unsatisfying relationship with their woman. Too many men WISH they had a woman that they could get along with. Too many men are trudging along in a sex-poor or even completely sexless marriage.

If you are such a man, let me tell you; you really can have a happy marriage and enjoy frequent sex.

It’s true. I KNOW it’s true because I’ve helped men from all over the world create exactly that kind of marriage. The strange thing is, when these men came to me, they THOUGHT there was no hope for them because they THOUGHT their wife was non-sexual. They THOUGHT that’s how she was and that there was nothing that could be done about it.

They were wrong.

Now, after some “fixing”, their biggest concern is whether or not they are going to be able to keep up with their woman sexually.

Ok, you might be wondering how that kind of transformation could come about, right?

You might be wondering, how did these men “fix” their wife?

Well, they did have to do some fixing…

They did have to change some things…

They did have to shift their focus…

…from “fixing” their wife to “fixing” themselves.

Their wife wasn’t the non-sexual problem.

The MAN was the problem. The man was doing things in such a way that HE was burying his wife’s sexuality deeper and deeper with each passing year that they were together.

This was EVIDENCED by the fact that the woman became less and less sexual the longer they were together.

And, the problem is, a woman is a VERY SEXUAL being…so much so that eventually, she’s going to TURN AWAY from the man who DOESN’T know how to help her express her sexuality but is instead causing her to bury it deeper and deeper.

Now, I’m not saying that a woman won’t bury her sexuality of her own accord because she may well do exactly that – that can definitely happen too. Both he AND she can be doing things that bury her sexuality deeper and deeper. And, that doesn’t matter.

At a subconscious level, all a woman knows is that she wants and needs a man who knows how to help her express her sexuality at a satisfying and fulfilling level in spite of herself and if he cannot do that, she will become very disillusioned with him and will eventually begin to seek out another man – whether through divorce or extra-marital affairs.

So, what’s the solution?

How did these men I referred to earlier turn their marriage around from non-sexual to highly sexual? Well, they educated and developed themselves in a specific order.

First, they learned exactly and precisely what the emotional needs of a woman are and they began to meet those needs on purpose.

Second, they learned to be the masculine kind of man that is attractive to a woman and began to operate in that mode.

Third, they learned how to invoke sexual thoughts in their woman’s mind.

Fourth, they learned how to sex their woman in a way that satisfied her and inspired her to want more and more of that satisfaction.

And now, they are both amazed at just how sexual their woman really is…

And, they’re asking me about dietary supplements that will give them the strength and energy to be able to keep up with their woman’s sexual drive.

That would be kind of a nice problem to have, don’t you think?

Beware: many a man has tried to skip past the first three items because he was only interested in the fourth item – sexing his woman so that she would want more. In fact, it’s because of this “popular demand” that bookstore shelves are lined with books promising men some new technique that will give a woman such spectacular pleasure that it will “blow away” all her resistance and reservation.

But, what you must know is that it doesn’t work that way. It never has and it never will. A woman is not interested in any kind of a sexual relationship with a man who does understand and operate by the first three items and she’s certainly not interested in more sex with him. If the first item isn’t firmly in place, the second item won’t work. If the first and second items aren’t firmly in place, the third item won’t work, and so on.

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Men, How About A More Sexual Marriage?

June 10th, 2009 Comments off

How To Create A More Sexual Marriage Relationship

If you are a man in a relationship that’s not as sexual as you would like, then I have good news for you: YOU CAN HAVE A MORE SEXUAL MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP.

Yes, you really can. As impossible as it may seem to you right now, I can assure you that enjoying more sex is entirely possible for you.

However, I must also tell you that creating a more sexual marriage or relationship is an up-hill battle that will require courage, strength, patience, persistence, education, and personal growth on your part.

Here’s why…

How a woman views things of a sexual nature depends upon how she has been conditioned to think about them and how she chooses to think of them now.

A person can’t really help it if they grew up being conditioned with thought processes and perspectives that have proven to be ineffective or even harmful. But, as an adult, they CAN NOW change their viewpoints, beliefs, and behaviors so that they can get a better outcome.

Unfortunately, it’s a rare person who chooses to do this – who chooses to think for their own self when they move into their adult years. Most just continue on for the rest of their life operating according to their childhood conditioning and programming.

That would be ok if most people’s conditioning was geared towards top success in all the important areas of their life – but that’s not often the case.

Relative to the topic at hand, more women that you might imagine are conditioned to believe that sexual pleasure is PERVERSE.

They are conditioned to believe that sex for the purpose of procreation is TOLERATED and anything beyond that is wrong.

They are conditioned to believe that ANYTHING that could be a source of sexual pleasure should be avoided.

And, given that most women are unwilling to go against the norms that are a part of their culture, society, and/or religion – it becomes MOST IMPORTANT to them that they maintain an OUTWARD exhibition of NON-sexual conduct and behavior.

The problem is, there is a part of a woman that craves sexual pleasure.

So, some women learn to masturbate in secret. They hide it from everybody. And, should the subject ever come up, they vehemently argue that any such behavior is “wrong” and emphatically state that they would NEVER do such a thing.

In other cases, women indulge in vivid, hardcore fantasies. But again, they deny all such activity and will in fact “condemn” such behavior in a public setting.

In cases like these, a woman has a “dirty little secret” that she must hide – and the most common way she chooses to hide it is to become even more anti-sexual in public.

In other cases, women have the moral stamina to “resist” the temptation to touch their self or to entertain thoughts of a sexual nature whenever they crop up – but, it’s such a constant struggle that they remain depressed and despondent most of the time. Such women feel dirty, evil, and guilty because sexual thoughts and feelings keep rising up inside.

But, far and away, the biggest problem with all of this is that as part of maintaining that OUTWARD non-sexual appearance, a woman squelches and minimizes her sexuality in her marriage – in many cases to the point of avoiding intimacy whenever possible and rejecting it when confronted with a request.

And of course, she would never let herself experiment with new positions, oral sex, or fantasy role-playing – even though in the deep recesses of her mind, these are EXACTLY the things she wants to do.

Because she fails to realize that sexual expression is a good thing created by God to be enjoyed within the confines of a marriage, she behaves in a way that often harms or even destroys the very institution that God created for her to enjoy sex within.

So, here’s the point that men must embrace and begin to work with now…

In order to fix this marriage-harming or marriage-destroying behavior of sexual denial and avoidance, a man must lead, teach, and help his woman past the conditioning and programming until she is able to express herself sexually without reservation.

Men want sex and orgasms. Women want sex and orgasms too. And, the lack thereof is a major source of tension, stress, and aggravation within a relationship…not just for men but for women too.

The issue is…your woman’s desire for sex and orgasms may be so hidden away that it never sees the light of day.

That’s why your happiness AND your woman’s happiness depends upon you making the decision to find out how to bust open the shell that surrounds and hides all of your woman’s sexual desires.

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The #1 Reason So Many Women Avoid Intimacy With Their Man

June 4th, 2009 Comments off

How To Turn Your Wife Into A Nymphomaniac

A normal woman LOVES intimacy. It’s what she daydreams about. It’s what her fantasies are filled with. It’s what she wants all the time.

Why then, do so many women avoid, withdraw from, and resist intimacy?

Actually, normal women – women who are emotionally, intellectually, physically, and spiritually healthy – do NOT avoid, withdraw from, or resist intimacy.

They do however, MOVE AWAY from the feeling of being USED.

Women DO withdraw from being an ACCESSORY that’s “pulled out” and “used” on an “as-needed” basis.

Women DO resist a man who ignores her and pays no attention to her until he wants something from her.

Bluntly, women avoid being a meaningless, valueless “masturbation hole”.

Imagine, if your wife completely ignored you EXCEPT for when she wanted you to pull out your wallet and give her money.

It would quickly become apparent…you would quickly see the link…the connection…when she’s nice, when she pays attention to me, she wants money.

You’d soon realize that your wife didn’t actually love, respect, appreciate, or admire you, she merely had a need for money from time to time.

How would that make you feel?

Not very good, right?

Well, now you understand how many women feel. They long ago made the connection that when their husband pays attention to them and is nice to them, he wants sex.

They long ago realized that their husband was NOT coming on to them because he actually loved her, found her beautiful, cared about her, admired her, or cherished her. Rather, he was responding and reacting to a physical, genetic urge – much like people are physically made to seek out a drink of water when they get thirsty.

That’s why so many men get a “No thanks, not interested” response from their woman. After all, who wants to be the equivalent of a meaningless, generic glass of water with no purpose or value other than to quench HIS physical thirst?

So, what’s the solution?

It’s not hard…

At the most basic level, intimacy that starts in a NON-sexual setting…intimacy that causes a woman to feel meaningful, valuable, pretty, attractive, special, and wanted…on a regular, on-going basis…that leads to a deep connection…a valuable relationship of mutual worth…and amazing love-making…now THAT is intimacy that a reasonable, rational woman IS interested in.

So, frequently flirt with your woman in a non-sexual setting. With persistent application, you’ll find you’re your flirting generally causes her to feel attractive which triggers within her a desire for intimacy.

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5 Cool Ways To Stir Up Sexual Thoughts In Your Wife’s Mind…

June 4th, 2009 Comments off

Real wives revealing their secrets???

Following are 5 ways you can stir up sexual thoughts in your wife’s mind:

1. Touch your skin to her skin in unusual and different ways. For example, while facing your wife, connect the area between your wrist and your elbow to that same area on her and just hold the connection for several seconds and look at her arm(s). You can do it with both arms or just one while you use the other hand to tickle your fingertips across her forearm / underarm skin.

2. When you’re tired and ready for YOU time and just don’t feel like giving any more to any one else then go ahead and summon up enough extra energy to connect with your wife in a non-sexual way. Tell her that that you are exhausted and tired but that she is such a pleasure and a joy to you that you just have to bask in the sunshine of her presence for the next 15 – 30 minutes – but that she needs to turn her “sun” down a little lest she “rejuvenate” you to the point she turns you into a sex-maniac. And then, just really connect with her in a totally non-sexual way for the next little way. You might just find that the attention you’ve given her even when you’re tired causes her to start coming on to you…and that you have “just enough” energy left…

3. The most sexual, erotic thing you can give a person is YOURSELF. In fact, one could say that “giving yourself” is sex. And, with that thought in your mind, carefully consider what it is that you’re giving your wife. Is what you’re giving resulting in the kind of sex you want? Or, is it time now to change what you’re giving so that you get a different kind of sex? Either way, give yourself in a way tonight that will cause your woman to have sexual thoughts – even if you have to step outside your comfort zone.

4. Be brave enough to tell your wife what you want from her sexually. Tell her at a time when she will have some time to process it alone and prepare herself appropriately – like some morning when you’ve got a little time and then are going to be parting ways for the day. Most people don’t realize just how appealing it is to their spouse when they are straightforward and honest about what they want sexually.

5. Let your wife know that you would NEVER cheat on her as long as she is your woman. Let her know that even when there are issues that need to be dealt with – even when there are problems affecting attraction and intimacy that you want to work through those issues and problems but that you will not cheat on her because you respect and value her too much. Let her know that the relationship you have with her is far more important to you than a mere fling with someone else.

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